My teenager has told us they doesn't believe in God and there is no scientific proof He exists. How do I respond without being a bad parent?
Personally the approach I would take is to continue living your faith out as a married couple.
I tend to feel that children need to again accept a matured believe in God as they transition through puberty. I say this in the context of the way you answer questions to a 5 year old is much different than you would to a 15 year old.
I think it is very important that you keep the lines of communication open with your child. I would affirm that your teenager is always welcome to talk to you about anything and everything.
When your teenager is well rested and feed (at their best) I would ask them what they do believe and how they came to the conclusion there is no God.
Today's youth are being bombarded at school and in the media with a wide variety of standards, ethics and messages of morality. It is possible your child is wrestling with some of the big questions related to believing in God, such as:
- why is there suffering
- I can't possible achieve the standard Jesus has set
There comes a point where the child needs to figure out for themselves who God is so they can own their own faith in Him. Interactions with your child could use Biblical principals, but without quoting Scripture.
If your child is in search of scientific proof then search online for divine medically documented miracles. God's power to heal is still active in the world.
But foremost pray a hedge of protection around your teenager and that the Holy Spirit would come knocking. Your child will respond to the love of God you and your spouse demonstrate. Not only this, but how you demonstrate God's love to your teenagers peers.
To share God's love you yourself need to be down on your needs and regularly feasting on God's Word. I hope you will be encouraged. I've been through times where God doesn't seem close. It is during these times in my life when I am weak (such as with my physical disability and chronic pain) and the hand of God is so obvious that it is Him empowering me.
Prepared By: Ron Piggott
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